On the day that lead to their offending, and often in the days and weeks that follow the offence, later examination of events often reveal that many exits presented themselves – opportunities to change course and avoid the crime having seen it coming, or exits that focus on damage limitation, and represent a chance to mitigate the consequences of exits either seen and ignored, or missed altogether.
Recently as we went through a General Election, it is apposite to revisit one case where in less than two months after the last Election a person who ought to have been able to spot an exit a mile off sped past it, literally, and paid an awful price for doing so.
Who knows where the journey ends once we tell that first lie – and the second that inevitably follows once the first has been discovered?
Thirty-four year old Fiona Onasanya had been the Member of Parliament for Peterborough for just seven weeks when in July 2017, no doubt distracted, her thoughts elsewhere, the MP and practising solicitor failed to notice the speedometer on her car slip past 40 in the 30 limit – and she missed the road-side speed camera too, until it flashed and caught her car in its trap.
Three weeks later when the section 172 road traffic forms arrived in the post, requiring her to disclose the name of the driver, a clearly marked ‘Exit’ presented itself – all she had to do was take it.
Had she done so, by admitting she was driving, not paying attention, doing 41mph in a 30 limit, there the matter should have ended; slapped wrist, three points, minor fine perhaps and a few finger-wagging tweets on social media from those who would have insisted that an MP should have known better – and they’d be right too; its 30 for a reason after all.
But she didn’t.
Instead, when she signed the forms insisting a friend was driving, not her, and popped those forms in the post, she flew straight past the ‘Exit’ and continued on her journey to disaster – but there was another Exit ahead – would she take that perhaps?
A month later, when interviewed under caution by police, instead of taking the Exit by claiming confusion: “I’m so sorry, I’ve now checked my diary, I had the dates wrong, it was me driving after all, ha ha ha, I’m a new MP, life has been so chaotic, I am so so sorry …blah blah blah” – as a solicitor she knew how to mitigate.
But again she ignored the Exit.
There were other Exits too on the road ahead: her first court appearance; then entering of a plea; followed by committal proceedings, and right the way up to the start of her trial, her path was littered with Exit signs – admittedly taking any of these would have presented increasingly greater difficulties in explaining away why previous Exit signs had been missed, but defiant to the end she ignored them all, went to trial – and lost.
The friend she claimed had been driving wasn’t even in the UK on the date the speeding camera caught the car in its double flash, a fact not even she could explain away.
Blindness to exits, or her obstinate refusal to take them, resulted in a three month prison sentence, the loss of her Parliamentary seat and its £79,468 a year salary, her reputation was trashed and finally, she was struck off the Solicitors Roll – and all for what?
In group therapy at Grendon prison I learnt to recognise these dangers, it was part of what was called cognitive thinking, a process of learning to recognise dangerous situations, come up with options, and then take one of them.
Recognising Exits is crucial.
During my time in prison I met numerous people serving life sentences for murder, and mostly because they failed to recognise Exits.
Exits that had usually presented themselves many times on the day they took someone’s life.
Exits presenting numerous opportunities that day to turn off, change course, resist peer pressure, seek help, turn left, not right.
Exits that, had they been taken, would have saved a life, spared their future and avoided the devastation the families of those murdered have to go through all because the Exits were ignored.
It’s never too late to take the exit – but you have to recognise they exist to do so.
Which is why prisons like Grendon, and all Therapeutic Communities in prisons, are so vital.
They equip people with exit recognition skills and the ability, no matter what the pressure is to continue on a course destined to end in disaster, to take the Exit before it’s too late.
Do you know how to spot an exit?